Your Childhood Love Isn't Like Adulthood Love

I just left another eye-opening therapy session. I find it fascinating how our subconscious can show us previous experiences or trauma in different places in our life. For example the love you were given as a child, can effect the relationships as you get older. Not only romantically, as my therapist we try to make our childhood relationship come to life and be better than before. Our friendships, we look for the same type of relationships that we've been around and the type of love that we recieived as a child.

For my story, our session opened my eyes to how the dysfunctional relationship with my mom, has triggered other female relationships in my life. I have grew walls around me for many reasons as a since of protection from what might hurt me, or my struggles I have been through my whole life. My therapist opened my eyes to see that, those in my life that have a positive relationship as a mother and daughter, or as a family, makes me immediately retract from being around those situations.

Now I come to realize this recognition of my dysfunctional love from my mom, caused triggered from strange aspects of my life and a jealousy of happiness of a relationship I will never have.

Trying to explain this to someone who has a strong relationship with their family and parents may not grasp this way of life for us. So what can we do? What can we say that would help us if we get into these funks?  Maybe they won't have answers. Maybe they can't help like you want them too, with the expectations of validation of what you want.

Right now this is brought a HUGE eye opener about the positive relationships I want and need in my life. I have to recognize the cognitive thoughts I have that probably aren't true. If you can relate to this, I would like to hear your feedback on how you learn to put your past triggers aside so you can learn and develop at healthy positive relationship.